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thatgrrrl - 2005-07-19 06:55:14
Re: the age thing. My husband D is 2 years older than I am. However, my lover Ed is 18 years older than I am. I have dated (in high school) a younger man, and found him to be immature. But then again, who isn't, in high school? Loved the entry, btw. Will definitely be back.
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warcrygirl - 2005-07-19 08:05:41
Ah see, I'm more of a Sonic Blast kinda girl myself. Perhaps instead of a mechanic your car needs a priest? You know, to rid its metal body of the demon that's possessing it?
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darcy - 2005-07-19 08:22:10
My husband is 9 years older. My first husband was 11 years older. My last lover was 21 years older. But that is about me - not them. There are all types of men, and many will date older women - think Demi & Ashton! Random eating binges are one of the hallmarks of full-fledged womandom. Go for it!
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luciab - 2005-07-19 10:01:40
My last lover was 7 years younger than me. Just because "A" is ageist doesn't mean every other man on the planet is!
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luciab - 2005-07-19 10:02:34
My last lover was 7 years younger than me. When I start looking again, I'll be looking at younger men. Just because "A" is ageist doesn't mean every other man on the planet is!
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Kat - 2005-07-19 10:02:35
I think "A" is totally delusional, not to mention I'm rather surprised that a professional therapist would ask a patient to be dishonest or desceptive (i.e. concealing your age). I'm in total agreement with you regarding laying it all on the table. I believe at this age, who's got time for bullshit. I'm 48, single and not dating right now, but to say that the only guys you may have a shot at are all much older than you is ridiculous. Maybe he's projecting his own preference onto you. Just look around you at how many various shapes, sizes, and age combinations there are. Go on sMatch and indicate that you're a 47-year old woman seeking male between ages 36-50. The ones that will be bothered by your age simply won't respond. And the ones who respond, you'll know won't mind. Go for it, and good luck. Kat
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Poolagirl - 2005-07-19 10:37:23
Something quippish: Age is a matter of mind. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
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awittykitty - 2005-07-19 11:04:25
99% of the guys responding to my sMatch.com ad are late 50s. They're all ignoring my age range listed of 44-49. I'm around old men all the time when I go out with my mom. They make me uncomfortable. I was raped by an old man as a kid. Zenshrink was 60 when he did his little inappropriate behavior thing. I have issues with old men. I had to watch my Dad and his 30 year younger wife. I just don't like the May/December thing. I think its unnatural. It just gives me the creeps and I can't see it ever changing.
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Julie - 2005-07-19 12:51:58
Okay, I agree with Kat... I really don't understand why a PROFESSIONAL is pushing this on you, especially given your past!!! I believe that age doesn't matter...to a certain extent. My ex was 9 years older than me, my current boyfriend is 7 years older. I think that even ten years between ages (either the man or the woman being older, doesn't matter) is even fine. But go beyond 10 years difference and it starts to get weird. It's just too much and definately unnatural. Anyone who is old enough to be your parent...ewww!!
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Meany - 2005-07-19 13:09:06
Husband is less than a year older than I am. I've never dated anyone more than 8 years older than me, but then again I've never had a relationship that lasted more than two months until now. Honestly, though? I don't think age really matters at all, as long as your personalities are compatible. My friend Lilli got married at 18 to a man 20 years older than her, and they're very happy together still (three years so far).
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Holly - 2005-07-19 14:52:56
My ex idiot is almost 7.5 years older than me. I've always been attracted to older guys. Well until recently. The older I get the more I find younger guys attractive (maybe because younger is getting older). My Grandparents were 11 years apart and married for nearly 50 years. My parents however were only 2 years apart. As long as both parties are adults and able to be friends and have intelligent conversation over nothing as well as the important stuff and they really care about each other age shouldn't matter. If you think about it, while there is a world of difference between a 10 year old and a 20 year old, when they are 75 and 85 it doesn't really mean diddly anymore.
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clipchick - 2005-07-19 15:41:56
My hubby's all of 10 months older than me. Now we all know how much YOUNGER most men act than their actual age...funny thing is, most younger men who date older women act much OLDER than the. Wish I understood that paradox...
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hissandtell - 2005-07-19 16:05:06
I've almost always preferred men around my own age; I've never thought we had much in common if they were a lot older. When I was younger, older men who fancied me used to make me run a mile - I couldn't shake off that tad-icky-predatory Lolitaish business, I guess. Like most things in life, though, my views on this have changed as I've become older. As long as no-one cares about MY age, I'm inclined not to worry about theirs. Love, R xxx
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hissagain - 2005-07-19 16:13:41
I meant to say - my husband (who is my age) says he has no interest in younger women. He likes looking at them, of course, but he says that as soon as they open their mouths he realises how little he can talk to them about, so he prefers to come home to me for intelligent and witty conversation. Oh, and crazed uninhibited rampant sex, too. x
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Pandi - 2005-07-19 17:41:59
Why is he telling a 47-year-old woman to date men who collect Social Security? Ye gods! Well, you know about the women in my family and younger men. I share your hesitancy with dating older men. Once a guy gets into his 50s, he's too close in age to my ex father-in-law and that just squicks me out. I'm 38, and I'd love to date someone around 42 (because that's the answer to life, the universe, and everything), but they're all panicking about having forgotten to get married and have kids, and looking at 32-year-olds. A girlfriend of mine told me to date guys around 47 (like tonight's date) because they're done raising their kids and want someone to "run around with," but that sounds so...disrespectful. "Running around" doesn't imply anything of substance to me, and I don't want to be a trophy. Whine, whine, whine.
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xat - 2005-07-19 21:16:36
My last lover (oh how fun was that to write?) was 29 to my then 39. I made him wait til his 30th birthday until we made the beast with two backs. I figured that we, at least, had the same first digit. Oh okay, if I hadn't met him near his birthday the story would have been different--but it's funnier this way, neh? Bonne chance--and remember, who the hell knows what's gonna happen.
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onewetleg - 2005-07-20 00:55:16
tommy is 9 years younger than me. i am dreading being single and trying to find someone who is close to my age. i don't want to date old men. i also find them creepy. i never want to have to do that. dammit. i'm screwed. i'd be a cat lady, but we aren't allowed pets here. thanks for the happy bday wishes. i hope this doesn't print twice. then i will feel like a double dweeb. promise me if it does you will delete the second one? or the first one, it doesn't matter. i'm obsessing.
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onewetleg - 2005-07-20 00:56:02
AAAAAAA!!!
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Autumn - 2005-07-20 11:14:48
My brother is 7 years YOUNGER than his wife. I seem to get along better with guys 2-3 years younger than I am and can't even relate to the ones who are more than 2 years older. I like Tool; they like (Jethro) Tull.
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Meany again - 2005-07-20 14:29:10
Nothing to do with men, but "Flash" at least has his eyes closed and is sleeping, witty, so don't worry about him stalking you! Except, maybe, in your dreams! [maniacal cackle]
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Nanc' - 2005-07-21 15:19:22
My husband of 17 years is 3 years younger than I am but everyone thinks he's older. I'd prefer an older man but I'm a younger man magnet.
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Andy - 2005-07-21 15:52:52
My wife is 2 years older than me. I'm 41 she's 43. We met when I was 35.
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